In October I had a funeral for my past – a letting go in order to fully live and embrace my future from a clear slate. On that day it marked a closing off some old chapters of my life so that I could write the new ones with a clean page and new pen!
As you may or may not know I had a marriage separation earlier this year. This was certainly not something I was expecting to happen when I made plans for 2017 however in hindsight leaving the man I totally loved, cherished and would’ve given my life for was an act of absolute self care.
I’m not saying you have to leave your partner in order to take care of yourself – however what I am saying is that sometimes we just have to really let go of the illusions, addictions, beliefs and fantasies of the things in our lives that we may have out grown or no longer serve us.
Generally these dramas are stories from the past that we cannot change and they’re causing us continual grief and suffering or possibly limiting us from being our real selves, pursuing our potential, dreams and goals. Being who we were born to be should be a priority no matter what roles we play in life, so should taking proper self care of ourselves.
Through the last five months I’ve done some deep healing work, I’ve questioned myself to no end about what I could’ve done better, I’ve looked at what my part was in what I thought was my happily ever after and done what some may seem to consider extreme and intensive transformational work to move through my grief and sadness not only to heal the grips from my previous lover, but to also let go of all of the sob stories and baggage I was carrying from many years ago to a point which was before I was even born! The payoff has been great , I’ve learned to really love and forgive myself and others and how to simply let stuff go.
So many people I meet everyday are feeling stuck, they’re feeling empty or they have a heap of drama or dis-ease going on that’s the cause of great suffering. They’re on anti depressant medication or numbing their lives out through alcohol, drugs and social media to mask up and hide away instead of fixing the problems. So, what I’m doing to acknowledge the death of my relationship and past events is to put an end to my story of heartbreak and sadness and to start and celebrate my new beginning – I’m having a funeral.
We’ve all had to let go of something at some point in our lives be it our job, our family, our dreams or the like, we seem to love hanging on to stuff that we should’ve let go but we can’t – it’s like we are pain junkies, it’s like we secretly love and need the drama, the heartbreak and the story we create and hold onto in order to to just feel alive.
If you would like to know more about letting go or having your own Funeral for the past I invite you to make contact through my page – Deborah Toussaint – The Self Care Goddess this is where I post heaps of inspirational memes and ways of letting go so you can start to love yourself back into your authenticity with or without a partner through absolute self care.
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Deborah Toussaint
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